8 hours ago
I am not a forgiving person.
Not even close.
Partly this is because I don’t believe in all those “I’m sorry” as they are merely the waste of breath. They never fix things. It is like covering the elephant in the room with some fabric, drinking tea around it and chatting about the weather while pretending to be oblivious of elephant’s existence.
Partly this is because I believe that every human being has their own right and wrongs. If I’m offended by the situation, it’s my problem and mine alone. The world doesn’t revolve around me and nobody is obliged to take my feelings into consideration while acting. What is more, each and every action could be seen as offending depending on the circumstances. However, the world doesn’t revolve around other people, as well.
Contradictions and all sorts of arguments are inevitable in the world populated with different people. I’m a huge fan of arguing as I believe that it helps in finding the truth and increasing the general knowledge, but there are situations and words that leave me offended. Which I deeply disagree with.
When such things happen (and they inevitably do), I take mental notes. I prefer to learn from the experience so I remember things. The person who broke the promise once will break it again, so there is no use relying on them. The person who lied will have no problem doing it again, too. Because humans, once grown up, hardly change. Forgiving in this case, forgetting things which left one offended merely encourages to make the same mistake over and over again.
So I don’t forgive.
Instead, I remember and adjust my behavior and expectations.